Stress Management

[Stumbler]

Now, here's a good lesson that I picked up from Facebook :-

 

"Apparently:

A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they'd be asked the "half empty or half full" question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she enquired: "How heavy is this glass of water?"

 

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.

 

She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn't change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes."

 

She continued, "The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything."

 

Remember to put the glass down."

 

[The Dragonfly]

I like this analogy very much. Might help me explain a few things to my teenage daughter who also has medical problems. Thank you.

 

Jen x

[Marina]

Hope you won't mind, Stumbler, I'm going to move this to the "Tips" section. Apart from which, it'll remain more visible there for longer as there are far fewer topics in that section.

[Stumbler]

Hope you won't mind, Stumbler, I'm going to move this to the "Tips" section. Apart from which, it'll remain more visible there for longer as there are far fewer topics in that section.

 

No problem.

 

[hoytfreak]

That is a great analogy. I never thought of it that way. Very good post stumbler.

[Skippysprite]

Brilliant description of stress....will try to remember this.

 

Pam

[eliza]

I love that, its so true. Thankyou. I had a great time away last week with my son and family who live away. Then came back to the moaning an demanding of my elders. eg. You forgot to get me my grapes - (my mum...).. We got shopping for my father in law. Then later - I need my bananas and chocolate I had been on citalopram for the stresses they put me under. I had come off it and did not have any problems last week whilst away, even though my son can be a bit stroppy at times. Then when they started pecking at me. I lost it threw the office chair across the room and my hairdryer and anything that was to hand. Just felt back into this trapped mithering world again. they both phone us, mainly me because hubby is at work about 5 times a day. they are both blind and deaf and he has had some minor strokes and has a bad chest emphysema, yes they do need help, I honestly think me and hubby will be dead before them. Mother in law has been accepted into the rest home permanently, even that has its problems sorting out spends toiletries etc visiting and taking father in law for visits.

 

I am not very tolerant if my hubby shops for us and he forgets something I ask for, I do with out or wait until Its convenient for him or me to pick it up. so yes I was carrying the glass around from my mother then it got heavier when father in law started, I think he rang us 4 times yesterday I am going to not answer these phones, I am a nice person but they are making me nasty. If its urgent they will leave a message, but then the anxiety creeps in and I wonder if there is a real problem. Mums only rung once today already. She knows I am going there later this morning.........

So I am putting the glass down. thanks so much . logically I know they are not going to die without grapes, or even bananas and chocolate, but I think they think they will anyway got it off my chest again. So any more coping strategies most welcome..........I am now off the citalopram because of unwanted side effects, but it did make me accept their witterings without getting cross. So I am sure I can do it without, I used to do mindfulness but have got out of using it. So I am now going to put the glass down,,,,,,,,,,,not throw it across the room