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Hi everyone,

I hope everyone Ian feeling ok today. I've not been on for a while just been in a kind a daze lately. I was in hospital last week for tests and review. The psychologist has decided I need counselling, to see if that can help me to walk properly again.


I have applied for ESA and they have sent me another form to fill in about what's wrong with me and it is just upsetting me. I just get scared that I fill it in wrong, I forget dates and appointments and they want to know. But the thing that upsets me the most is I have to go over everything that is wrong with me and be reminded of everything I can't do. These forms really should come with a box of tissues.


Sorry for going on

marianne xxx

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With filling these forms, I find it tiresome almost like being a professional disabled person but the best thing is get Citizens Advice to fill it in. They know the specific keywords that help to score points.


What you need to do is dissociate yourself from the person being described in the form. After all its only a depiction of you on your worst day.


I am afraid its something you have to do to get the enhanced benefit otherwise its Jobseekers at half the value with no emotional form filling.



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If I knew I was going to live so long I would have taken better care of my body

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This form-filling is one good reason for getting someone experienced to assist you in completion.


You have to be completely objective about yourself and the problems that you face. As you've already intimated, this can get a bit emotional and you can start minimising the impact of symptoms.


Having a third party helps you to detach yourself from the form filling exercise. And ensures that objectivity is maintained.


Citizens Advice bureaux can help.


Hope this helps



John aka Stumbler (as I do fall over!)

Illegitimi non carborundum


"Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well-preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming... "Wow! What a ride!"

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I agree, CAB is good at helping, but getting to a CAB office may be difficult and the wait to see someone is off putting if you're not so well.


We've recommended the Benefits and Work website before, lots of us have used them. It may be easier for you to use them too?



There is a subscription but it's well worth it.

You're not the only one to feel upset by the emotions it raises when filling out these things, believe me. hugs2.gif

I hope you get some answers to what's causing your walking problems Marianne.

Chris x

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Not waiting for the storm to pass, but learning to dance in the rain ....

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I know someone who works at our local dial house and they can help too. I think they are pretty nation wide.

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hi there. i agree. i had someone come and fill my dla form in and couldn't stop crying while they were here. definitely couldn't have done it myself. get some help.

derby x

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I had a look and the benefits and work and i too am subscribing very interesting.My Ms Nurse said she would help me with my form when they do my review. Maybe if you have a ms nurse or a nice gp they would help you too.I know mine would.;)

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All good advice there for you Marianne!


The CAB and DIAL are brilliant, they will help out no end in filling the forms in for you.


I got a little upset when I filled out my DLA form too. I know I had to complete it for my worst day, but actually writing it all down, it was almost like re-living a nightmare. But, the others are right, detach yourself when it's being completed.




They are not brain lesions..........they are just bright ideas


"The truth is out there"

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Wow thank you all so much for your advice and good to know I'm not alone in how I feel.


marianne x

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