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Living Wills

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Ruby Red

I'm Curious as to if any has a living will in place?

 

I have had Two for 8 years, an NHS Living will directive, which I update every year and attached to medical notes and is with the on call/out of hours team and one I had drawn up solicitors. The General idea is if I'm incoherent my Husband precents the will and treatment or rather no treatment in my case will be followed. My husbands only produced it twice when Doctors decided they wanted to play hero.

 

Does anyone else find Hospital Doctors don't listen? I tell them what i need and most take offense that I know what works best for my MS I cant be the only one who has experienced this or am I ?

 

Hugs and love Amy x

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Hezza

Hi Amy,

I know of living wills but don't have one in place though it may well be something that I will do.

 

I've been fortunate that, so far, I've not needed any hospital treatment for anything other than as a day patient for IV steroids. My GPs, Neuros and MS Nurses have all been pretty good at trusting my own knowledge of my body too.

 

xx

 

Ps. I've moved your topic into the MS Discussion section as it may get more views & replies in there x


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Ruby Red

hi Hezza, still learning my way round :)

 

 

I tend to find with me its always out of hours doctors cause me problems. while they access your basic notes they don’t know you from Adam. what started the ball for me was flu with breathing difficulty’s, next thing i know im in hospital hooked up to machines. Even though i refused treatment they called in the psych team who's words still haunt me " its her underlying medical condition clouding her judgement to make rational decisions " and i was sectioned for 48 hours and treatment forced onme.. and there wasn’t a thing hubbie could do, he new my wishes of no machines and tried to explain this but he was threatened with arrest if he didn’t leave after i was sectioned.. in fact because he refused he was arrested. Its something nobody ever thinks about what are the medical wishes, as soon as i was out i had a living will with in a week I now present it to every doctor and nurse I talk to.

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Dewi1jack

Thanks for the warning on this.

I am still coming to terms and to find that doctors will not follow my wishes, is frightening.

Both my daughter and fiancée, know that I have always had a wish for 'no resuscitation', didn't know that Drs' could overrule them, let alone get either arrested.

I suppose I really shouldn't be surprised.

Is it better to get a living will drawn up by a solicitor, or are the downloadable versions on the internet ok and legal/ acceptable?

Best wishes Amy and thanks for the warning

Take care.

Dewi. X

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